Cover these, every time
| Topic | Agree on |
|---|---|
| Roles | Who leads, who follows |
| Hard limits | Things that will not happen |
| Soft limits | Maybes, only if asked |
| Safe word | Plus a hand signal |
| Health | Testing and protection |
| Aftercare | What each of you needs afterwards |
Put it in writing
A message thread is enough. It means nobody has to remember the details later, and it shows you both took it seriously.
Then meet, without playing
The first meeting is a check that the person matches the profile. Keep it public and short. See safety for more.
Common questions
What if they refuse to talk limits?
Walk away. Anyone who skips negotiation is not safe to play with.
Can limits change later?
Yes, by talking again. Never mid-scene without agreement.